To New Things

It seems I have lulls in my writing from time to time, but I manage to pull through and get back on. I do want to express my gratitude to everyone that provides feedback and who takes the time to read my posts regardless of time between each one.

I sit here with some fun instrumental music playing thinking of what I should write about… I have some idea’s yet it’s always difficult to figure out where to start. Funny thing is I usually write and feel like I don’t have much to share and then next thing I know I have to proofread 5 paragraphs :P.

Well to start he’s some awesome cheese fries I made the other day ^_^

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Work has been pretty steady, lots of people quitting smoking and coming back super happy that they feel much better and save a ton of money. The only problem that I’ve been having is keeping things in stock. I’ve been pretty diligent in putting in orders before things are required… then Canada Post or for some other reasons things get held back. It’s pretty tough to run a happy customer base when you lack product that people want, I’m waiting almost two weeks or more to get things that I need. Regardless I’m plugging away and doing the best I can with what I’ve got.

Sagan has been pretty good and I recently picked up another kitty named Bella to keep him company when I’m not around. Things were iffy at first, Bella was really shy and Sagan just wanted so badly to be her friend. He would walk up ever so slowly to see how she was doing and say hello, but she would always hiss at him and swing a paw… funny seeing such a cute little cat look so menacing :P. After a few days they mutually began to chase each other which is nice. They aren’t really into cuddling each other which I was hoping would happen but only time will tell right! They do tend to mimic each other when they sleep or nap but it seems like right now they have a real love hate relationship.

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I had a game night the other day but due to unfortunate circumstance it was cancelled so in the mean time I decided to Built a Kitty Castle… Catstle Dare is say :P. It’s done yet but the kitties like to play in it.

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Lately I’ve been trying to make more of an effort to have less waste and using more natural products. I’ve started to make my own toothpaste and am offering it for sale as well. Glass containers and combo kit with compostable Bamboo toothbrush, at the very least I’ll have toothpaste without a ton of chemicals and no more wasteful toothpaste tubes.

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I got my longboard re-gripped with a nice funky green tye dye pattern, I have to say it actually took some getting used to having full grip on my board… I have to semi re-learn my balance because now I have to lift my feet more instead of sliding them across the board.

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Started to play Dungeons & Dragons with some friends and I find we mesh well, which is pretty exciting for me since as much as I like people… it’s exhausting to be around many people when you don’t share similar views or being around people who don’t respect them. Maybe it’s just me but I do a lot of conversing at work as it is, so I think I have my fill of “public”.

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D & D seems to have a sort of stigma attached to it or stereotype and to be honest it’s way more fun than I ever expected! It’s pretty much adult story telling with friends… when did we learn or become conditioned to lose our imaginations or story telling. Sure we can express it through other forms of art but I find creating stories really helps expand your mind and creativity… don’t bash it till you try it right!

I’ve been watching a ton of Dragon Ball the original series with subtitles, to be honest I think I like it better than the DBZ series… it’s comical and I love little Goku’s voice and reactions; such innocence <3. It’s really neat to learn how all the connections of the characters came about too ^_^.

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Oolong, Bulma & Goku searching for the Dragon Balls

I also realised that Japanese culture conditions kids to sexual content and makes it less of taboo subject; to be honest I don’t even see it as a bad thing. It seems in North America sexuality is created to be a topic not to be spoken about, but that makes it so much more troubling to talk about when you have desires but feel they may be wrong. In reality they may be a common thing… I’m not speaking about anything specific but just in general… Some people feel certain ways and should never feel ashamed of how they feel or who they are. In life we need to be comfortable with who we are and not let society dictate who we become.

I think that’s all for now I hope to keep this motivation going for future posts, thanks again for all the support… hoping to motivate myself to get another Zoticusslife video up soon be sure to pester me about it ;).

“Fear is something that is created by imagining something that hasn’t happened yet… that near insanity. Don’t be mistaken danger is real but fear is merely created”

Just Keep Going

It’s been 2 years and a day since I opened my blog so that I could fundraise to go to Haiti, so what better time to post a blog!

 

So much has changed since May 2012, I now live in BC and comparably as happy as I was in Haiti. I live with great people there are mountains outside my front door in any direction and green everywhere!IMG_1251

There’s been a lot of new development in the past few weeks as well. I’m moving into a bigger place on the same property mind you on the 1st of June… I’m excited to be able to take showers… instead of baths (What were you thinking I didn’t baths? silly people). I’m still in the process of getting my car to pass BC safety standards, the sad thing is my car is better than most on the streets here. I got a new windshield today because there was two chips in it, but now it feels like I’m driving a new car.

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While my car was in the shop getting fixed I decided to longboard since it’s super warm out… T-shirt and shorts weather. It’s nice to get out and “exercise”, I’m going to need it as I start a new job soon doing landscaping. I’m leaving The Mobile Shop because I can’t bear to be cooped up inside a grocery store selling phones anymore, especially not in the beautiful weather that is here and it going to continue to shine in the summer. Another reason I’ve decided to leave my current employment is the fact I’m surrounded by something that I’m so against… such consumerism and plastic everywhere; I know you can’t eliminate all the plastic, but every new holiday there is shelves upon shelves of crap from gimmicky plastic cups to ornaments and one time use decorations that we are littering our earth with but I digress.  I’ve been doing customer service long enough; I do really enjoy helping people but I’d rather be doing it some other way like therapy, life coaching, or just giving someone a smile.

There's snow up on the Mountains but none in town ^_^

There’s snow up on the Mountains but none in town ^_^

The yard is really coming along, Dayton and I did a walk around the property climbed a tree or two and just talked about life and plants and the earth. Our fire pit is set up and we are already having movie nights again. Our first official fire was about 3 weeks ago and random people kept showing up but it was great, guitars and music were playing.

I’ve begun to record things going on at “The Hostel” to make a keepsake video for everyone. I have some Jam sessions, some fire nights and gardening… maybe we’ll even make a music video.

I wanted to throw an update out there as I’ve really slacked off huge on updates so here one is! It’s super nice out so I’m going to cut this one short, hope everyone is having a great week if not, take a step outside look at the sky smile at the clouds, sun, rain, or even stars we live on a tiny marble, let your worries go for a bit and enjoy the moment.

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Namaste ❤

“Change is the only constant” ~illogic

Thoughts Gliding

I hope everyone has had nice Holidays so far, I guess I’ve been pretty busy between work and having a expanding social life… always a good thing. I’m going to go through some of the past events and then try to go through some of my thoughts about… just things.

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Cold Earth

I’ve managed to nab some awesome deals recently which is really cool, I finally got my free tablet from TD that they owed me for a while… it just took some nagging to the correct people to get things fixed. I’m very pleased with it as I don’t have to keep running to my computer to write emails or check out videos. I still don’t think I’d ever go purchase a tablet but it is an awesome free addition!

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The next great deal I came across was an amazing recliner from The Brick, this awesome reclining theatre type seating was in the clearance section and was still on the high end of my budget for getting rid of my futon. I returned about a week and half later knowing that if it wasn’t there it just wasn’t meant to be. As I was walking to the clearance section a lot of the furniture had been moved but I kept going and when I arrived the couch had been turned around so I hadn’t noticed it. When I took another look… the price had dropped a few hundred dollars! Right there I said ‘I’ll take it’, and off I went with a $1500+ couch for… $200!

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Yummy Grilled cheese w. Broccoli & OJ

I have decided I want to begin collecting Beatles albums (vinyl), mainly starting with the Apple Records albums. My goals is to pick up at least one a month which isn’t too bad considering I can find them for 15 – 30 dollars each. There is one album that I plan on scouting for a mint copy… that’s the “White Album” . I’ve been listening to the “Blue Album” for a couple of weeks now, I love the sound of vinyl there’s not much like it.

As stated before I hope everyone’s Holidays have been good, great, or amazing. As much as I consider Xmas just another day on the calendar I tend to be drawn into dinners and parties… I’m definitely not complaining about it… it’s good to know there are people with huge hearts out there. I did get some Christmas cards which was kind of cool… I’ve never really received any before despite living on my own in the past. I ordered some for a few people because I didn’t really get a chance to get all creative and make my own… unfortunately they are late and I have yet to receive them/ send them.

My work… well my colleagues and I decided to throw a party for the holidays and let loose. It was a pretty great night with finger foods, good laughs… oh yeah and a full-sized beer pong table which made for a fun night for sure! I’m not going to lie my head did hurt a lot the next day despite how much water I drank. I don’t normally drink alcohol, it doesn’t really have the lustre is did when I was in college… even then I didn’t drink as often as my friends had.

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For Christmas one of my friends Maria invited me over for Xmas dinner with her boyfriend and his kids. Maria so kindly accommodated my vegetarian diet which she has been helping me with for great recipes since the beginning. It was a really fun night of Yatze and there was even a dance show done by the girls! Even if I hadn’t been invited by Maria, Brent and Ryan my Hostel Mate neighbours invited me to their family dinner since they know my family is back in Ontario and they already had their big Xmas on the East Coast. It’s nice to know that there’s great people out there.

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Just when I though I was catching up on bills and such, in abundance I had to get my car inspected to pass for BC plating… I now have to do a bunch of work to my car which is going to cost me a couple hundred bucks and… make her ugly 😦 ; I have to take off the tint on the windows as it’s illegal in BC and change the lights on the front and back because they are both the incorrect colour? Oh well such is life so I will do what I can myself and get er’ passed.

It has been an interesting past few weeks as things in my life seem to be settling… which to me is good and unsettling for me. I’m usually in constant movement; it’s exciting for me as I am creating new adventures all the time learning new and exciting things about the world, people and most of all my self. I continue to try to get my business on track and stay on top of my game at work.

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Frosted Bush

Some days I find myself waking up and just wondering where I am in life, where I’m headed and what my next adventure will be. To see how far I’ve brought myself is exciting knowing the successes I’ve obtained and the lessons that were learned through mistakes and gut feelings. I find myself constantly surrounded by music and different types everyday, it’s a nice escape from the constant day in and out of work.

I’m really happy where I am now and things are slowly on the move in the direction I’ve been striving for, yet I’m still at a loss for words to convey how I feel submersed in my music. As I sit here writing contemplating my writing, smiling in-between pauses.

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Oh by the way apparently my girlfriend made me admin to being lame as my black board states

 

Take a moment to look at yourself now; close your eyes and breath in life, enjoy the air that fills your lungs. Every breath is the next step to a new journey. 

 

Connections

There’s much to catch up on as usual, many things have happened and many changes have come about!

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Our beautiful moon

Let’s start with work I guess; in November I managed to hit “Experts” level for selling phones. I really didn’t expect to reach it, my goal was actually only to hit 25 devices but I managed to nab the 35 (Experts) in one month. ‘Yeah big deal’, you may say but now I get personal business cards instead of having to write my name out every time on blank ones… oh did I mention I also receive benefits now ;). That’s the hype at work.

Our first bad snow day

Our first bad snow day

So it’s been on the to learn list for a while that I’ve wanted to snowboard… I’ve always been able to Ski but I wanted to be one of the “Cool kids” haha. It’s not really that I’ve always just been more intrigued by boarding. One of my co-workers managed to grab some cheap lift passes for only $20; I decided that the time was right to jump on the learning train.

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Mariam & I

It was a wonderful day to go great company and beautiful weather, I rented my gear and up the hill we went I was pretty anxious the whole time, despite having watched many… many YouTube video’s to hopefully aid the learning process. Caleb was the friend that was pretty much teaching the group, we all needed a bit of help; there 6 of us all together. Oh did I mention he was rockin’ an 80’s suspenders snow suit with a blond wig. I think I did pretty well, I didn’t stick by his side too much and I kind of did my own thing cruising ahead of everyone most of the time. I fell a whole bunch mind you and my butt was super sore… as Caleb put it ‘I’ve never seen someone use their butt as an anchor so much‘. I was picking things ups slowly… in my mind I was, but Caleb said I was doing exceptional for my first time. But there was something missing, everyone kept saying ‘don’t worry how fast you’re going’, my reply: “I don’t care how fast I’m going… I just. Can’t. Turn! And if I can’t turn when I go off that hill then I will be worried how fast I’m going”. 

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It was our second run… and our last because. We took ages to run the first one so it was almost closing time. I started off and wiped out twice and pretty darn hard! We hadn’t even made it to the lift yet.  I took some deep breaths held back from cursing and moved forward… to my amazement I hit some sort of good swing, I found the movement I was missing and it was all down hill cruising from there… pun intended. I was super stoked, I did it, I mastered… well figured out how to controllably turn and look like a half decent boarder, woohoo. We made it to the top of the hill for our last run and the fog began to roll in; I had finally made mega amounts of progress but now could see barely 20 ft in front of me at any given time, good news was I only fell maybe 4 times compared to the… oh I don’t know 45 from the first run.

The following day I was in so much pain I felt like I had been playing in a tumble dryer for a whole day prior. I was suggested to try this stuff called Arnica… and let me tell you it is works of magic. It comes in many different form but I go the sugar diluted 30CH, I took five 3X a day within two days I felt like brand new.

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Some exciting news, I’ve developed a great relationship with a girl named Mariam who happens to now be my partner/ girlfriend. She struck me as kind of strange at first the way she greeted me several months back, but there was a connection that just drew me to think of her more than I normally would when I meet a girl. We continued to talk for a few days with her resisting my charming self but eventually I cracked that wall and we began going on dates for a few weeks, and ever since things have been pretty good!

We went snowboarding together that day I had many falls ;). It was nice to have a caring gf around to make me feel better after the 10th, 20th… fall. Especially after I watched some guy do some cool tricks on ski’s which I can do; I think my exact words were ‘I should have just borrow a stupid set of ski’s *grunt*‘.1462939_10153564740475022_604131859_n

Mariam lives in the next town over so unfortunately we don’t get to spend as much time as we would like together but we make do… Skype is a wonderful invention :).

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Last bit of news and maybe the biggest, I’ve decided to change my diet and I am now officially a vegetarian. I’d say a few years back I could never see my self eating vegetarian, despite always caring so much about the world. I’ve grown a lot especially in the last year and I’m open-minded to learn almost anything. As my love for the earth has grown over the past few months I continue to research things online and watch documentaries, the thought of becoming a vegetarian was seemingly edging on the boarders. One day I had just had enough of seeing what we are doing to the earth and made the choice to fully commit to cutting meat out of my diet.

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I don’t want to get too much into it and no I don’t really have anything against other people eating meat, it’s their choice and everyone is entitled to live their lives how they please… well within reason that is. If there’s anything I’d suggest to the omnivore’s out there is look for free range and locally raised / produced meat products.

Thank you to all my followers, Jules is thankful for the support of her guest post and I want to invite others to email me/ hit the guest post tab on the left for your very own post to shine!

~ Everything is connected into the fabric of our lives; be respectful and you will reap the benefits.

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There’s ups n’ Down’s

This blog post is well over due and I apologize, there’s been good bad and great happening and a little bit of laziness to be honest. This will probably be a lengthy post as there’s a lot to catch up on… or I may just blast through a few things.

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Cold creeping down the mountain

Let’s start with a few weeks ago I signed my lease agreement for my business to solidify thing for February now I’m just waiting for some financial stuff to come through once I apply for it.

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One of my hostel mates has a cute kitty named Panda I’m sure I’ve spoken of her before, but she’s pretty much welcome everywhere at the Hostel and she goes pretty much anywhere she desires. Panda’s an amazing cat and is very loving and I feel bad sometimes when she’s outside because it’s getting cold… she does adore being outside though. My buddy does bring her in every night so it’s not like she’s stuck out there. Anyway where I was going with all of this is I let her in my place a week ago and she always just looks around for a bit rolls around for some attention and then kind of takes off. Since it’s been getting cold she likes to just hang out by the window now and just scan the yard behind my place. The other night when I let her in she came and cuddled on my couch and took a nice couple hour nap in my cozy warm place and it was super cute to say the least.

One of the Rogers/ Fido reps. from my work had set a goal  for our store to meet and promised us a dinner and we of course met this goal so we were treated to a nice dinner… On Rogers ;). I had some awesome jambalaya that I scarfed down… elegantly; this place was also kind of upscale so obviously the food was scrumptious.

Big surprise… I cut off my hair and beard! Why? Some of you may ask well it was starting to get hard/ a pain to maintain and if I took a bath at night I had to wait for my hair to dry or it would be all crazy the next morning. Oh yeah and I was kind of missing my short hair and stubble. I actually let a girl that I was on a date with do it, it’s not like there was any real way to mess it up I was just chopping it all off… or buzzing it since we were using my clippers. She asked if she could cut the back with scissors and I said ‘sure why not‘. I have to say that it was a really weird sensation of the scissors cutting through the hair… it kind of gave me chills.

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I fooled around with my long hair at different stages while cutting it, t’was was pretty funny but once there was just the mustache and long hair… it grossed me out… so much for Movember. Ultimately I’m very happy with my decisions other than my face and head being cold outside, I like it. Most people didn’t recognize me anymore, the people I worked with just stared for a bit and were thrown off even my hostel mates were blown away… I went from a Jesus look to clean-cut I don’t know what you’d call it look. I actually had a hard time seeing myself in the mirror it was totally weird.

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Gnarly

So my book, the much awaited book… No it’s not done yet and I’ve once again kind of fallen off of the writing curve mainly because I’ve been so tired lately from lots of working. I did speak to a publishing group called Friesen Press and I may go with them for publishing and sales as it could bring in some royalties and it would be good to have especially if I decided to write more books. They are little bit costly but through much research, the most reliable and the best potential to make some coin back… unfortunately we are looking at a book release maybe in the summer instead of Christmas; sorry for the let down!

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So much typing

I finally picked up a new phone as my old one has had a cracked screen for several months and was starting to eat the dust. I picked up a Nexus 5 one of the fastest phone’s… actually it is the fastest phone I’ve ever had and it’s one of the top phones on the market today. I’ve run into a few issues with my carrier about misinformation on my plans and Tab etc… but I’m waiting for a resolution before I leave any reviews on them. *update* They contacted me and fixed the issue that they created… but we’ll see how the next bill shows up.

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I managed to pick up a TV so that I can play my PS3 which I’ve been itching to play for a while… It was a steal $150 for a 52″ DLP HDTV, it works perfect! I did have to drive with it hanging out of my trunk from Lumby (45 mins away) and then get someone to help me bring it up into my place… It’s huge to say the least but all the other TV’s were so much more expensive and for a quarter of what I currently have, so it was so worth it… I watched “Ocean Predators” last night and it looked so awesome; I also fell asleep just goes to show how tired I am.

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So what’s currently going on in my life..? A lot more than usual I’ve started seeing a girl… wait maybe that’s why I’m so tired, from texting her all night hmm girls…. they complicate everything but so far she is so worth it. The other day my cell phone invoice was very very wrong and it really upset me as I’ve been putting myself on a strict budget so that I can run my business on time. Luckily Mariam was able to help me vent a bit and my day slowly got better. The other day we made dinner together which was a lot of fun, steak, mashed potatoes and asparagus. It was such a good dinner… the mashed potatoes were interesting to make as I was short on salt so we just threw more cheese in them and it was still not right. I went and borrow some more salt from one of my Hostel Mates and we dumped a ton in there… there was a lot of potatoes (I’m still eating them) but that was honestly what was missing… the salt!

Life’s full of its ups and downs and I’ve experienced many downs this past week which really surprised a lot of people (I’m always smiling apparently) but I had to remind myself don’t forget to smile”  and it made things a little better. Keep an eye out for the people who care for you, they will always be there to help you out when you really need it. Treat these people like they are special and they will return the favour.

Keep an eye out for my daily posts about 21 habits of happy people on my Inner Paths Facebook page.

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Long Haul Part 2

It’s tough to sit down and write blogs when you don’t have a proper desk but I’m making an effort to keep everyone up to date on my life!

Here’s part 2:

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Driving through Saskatchewan was really interesting… seeing all the stereotypes that it’s flat, and let me tell you that when it’s flat it is as far as the eye can see. As the day light began to rise I saw some of the most beautiful sights, Sask. was one of my favourite sections of my drive despite being the longest leg in a Province/ State. There were some parts I drove across that had really awesome hills and some awesome spots to go longboarding… if I ever get good enough to Bomb a hill at 75 Km/h or more.

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IMG_0659It was nice to get out of my car and take some photo’s… I had really fallen out of touch with my photography and spending even the 10 or 15 minutes I spent taking photo’s really gave me an awesome feeling. Just reminiscing on the photo’s with the rolling fog gives me a lovely feeling. The feeling I felt was probably a  lot of things from remembering my passion to, I’m happy I’m walking around on my two feet instead of sitting on my butt for hours on end. Most of my drive in Saskatchewan was on empty roads, I didn’t see many people other than in little towns/ cities.

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There was a point where I was getting Scarily tired and I had to pull over, and taking the last swig on my single energy drink I had been milking for the past 20 hours just made things worse… it also seemed like there was no rest stops in sight more miles upon miles, finally I came up on one, put some gas in my car and pulled around back for a nap. This nap I took was only about an hour and a bit for two reasons, one was that it was too hot and the other because I was so close to my new “home” only about another five and half hours or so away. I woke up from this nap really confused not really knowing where I was, I was so groggy and messed up from the amount of driving I had done and lack of sleep. I put my shirt on hoped in the driver seat and followed my GPS. After about 25 minutes of driving I snapped back into things and was all smiles from there, my adrenaline was racing at the idea I was almost at the home base… a new adventure.

Welcome to Alberta said the sign I think… never the less I was cruising, and there was much more traffic now than there was in the past few hours. I managed to make it to a rest stop just before Edmonton, I could actually see the Edmonton City sign I was so close but I needed a pee break and to stretch my legs since I didn’t know what kind of congestion the city would have. I took out my longboard did a few rounds of the building jumped back in my car and off I went. My cell services finally kicked in and I had internet everything my generation is sucked into, I was able to post on Facebook and message friends that I had finally made it.

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It was around 3:30 in the afternoon and I had made it ahead of schedule… approximately 4 hours ahead of schedule which was great because I wasn’t looking forward to arriving in town just to go to sleep then start working at 7Am the next day. I started working with an insulation company and it was great money but the waking up at 5:30 AM was honestly taking a toll on my body. I’ve heard it a million times that your body will get used to it… it won’t, not for me anyway. I had been in the Military for many years along with doing pipe fitting where I was waking up at 5 AM everyday but to no avail I was never able to get used to it. I had started going to bed around 9 or 9:30 at night which by the way it’s still daylight here at those times. It helped with my general awake fullness during the day but still I was dreading the mornings. The job helped get me on my feet a bit but there’s still much growth to be had.

What I’ve taken away from Edmonton so far is the Pedestrian Crosswalks which are non-existent in my home town of Windsor, but huge here (you’ve got so much power stopping all the cars!). If someone steps out into the Ped. Crossing lines every car stops regardless of your speed… which is crazy most of the crossings are just signs I much prefer the ones with lights at least you can see what’s happening farther ahead if someone wants to cross. There is a ton of spots for longboarding so that I can expand my skill… and get hurt as most of you have seen on my Facebook.CAM00116

This hurt really bad!

This hurt really bad!

Let me say one thing about Edmonton… the roads are Crap… I figured for a major city the roads would be much nicer but they really aren’t I think they are pretty at par if not worse than Detroit roads. I guess one other thing I’ve noticed is everything is pretty much Privatized here in Edmonton for example speeding… you don’t see police doing traps and such it’s all photo radar which are sneaky buggers, but I have yet to get a ticket, since I don’t speed. I actually find myself doing the speed limit almost bang on but I think it’s because most of the drivers drive super slow here usually 10 under… which is usually 50 Km/h which in fact is the normal posted speeds in my province I guess it’s nice to be able to drive 60 Km/h on the regular and not worrying about getting a fine.

I still have so much more to share but I have to get ready for work at my new job with Donorworx/ World vision. ^_^

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“New Me”

– Everyone has a dream; don’t just chase yours, help others find and fulfil theirs.